My kids live on different planets.
It’s my daughter Thick and loudwithout words and active. Climbing and rocking is the happiest, and if he had six plays on the weekend, it would not yet be enough. My son, on the other hand, is more thoughtful and quiet. It spends a lot of time before trying to fix a problem. Every day school is playing with two same children. But it’s just playing, or play beside me while I do dishes or hammer on my computer.
These kids are very young for well-known personality tests, but I already see my daughter More extroverted And my son, More introverted. Last summer, we took my daughter tonight and stayed in the nearby holiday rental. Almost every morning, son and I got up early and went to the beach, just looking for birds and seek shells. When he roared along the beach, he meant the coast early in the morning, how happy I saw it, how the contemplative arrow keys had never fulfilled his sister. I started to surprise: do I meet the need for slow moments? Do I need peace?
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I’m more stroverted, a penchant to throw a good group of friends with a social butterfly and a good party. But they attract the opposites, and my life is full of people who are more introvertitu, including my partner and one of my best friends. I get that personality traits because of the spectrum Most are atmospheresBut the structure of society and is often childhood, we, brighter, weighchers, social, social Some estimates are 57 percent People as introverts. Year years ago, I decided to learn more about a better friend, colleague and man, more. Susan Cain I took the book Baggy, To open a look at the power and wisdom of more introspective people in the area. His work clearly makes it possible why the professional world needs to pay attention and create workplace environments, quieter people. Baggy People like to give people space to make room for help, support and runner.
But the book is mostly for adults. Remembering my son, I reached Susan. I wanted to know: “Are children’s rules different? How do I work my little introvert?”
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I think the question of the main question is what a child included is what is different from what is detrerved. How do we have parents, what should they give them success?
There are so many questions there! For children, quieters and shy children, there is a difference between these two things. The child is introverted despite the person who prefers harder environments, and often wants to socialize, but in calmer, like another child. Shy child can be very stroverted and enjoyed, with a large and hard environment with a large city company. But it is more than shy, social anxiety and more than judged fear, so the first thing is to identify where the child’s quiet behavior comes from.
OK. I think of my child, it certainly likes more stimulants. It takes a long time as much people to warm up to new places.
Yes, children have a longer track. I will give you an example of a child to learn to swim. Very often these kids will be temporary around water for the first time. You don’t just want to throw in the pool, it’s a kind of parental school. But you don’t want to protect too much. So you know that the pool will be empty, and maybe the drill for that day your child encourages you to immerse yourself in a toe in the water and then you celebrate and go to ice cream. And then you will come back a few days later, and this time they come to the knees, and do nothing from there. Eventually the child learns to swim, and you can’t the difference between that child and he jumped immediately.
You know what they feel is normal, and manage these feelings and learn to work through them.
This makes sense. The high transition is the first day of school or a new school. How do we help? One of my children’s schools playing school in school players who used to school.
Yes, so that is joined by the playground with a large noisy group of children. If your child wants to play well, but if not, I would say getting your child and organize a solitaire playdate, there or elsewhere.
Often for children’s tranquility, the route of social life is bridge through these friends. It’s a person to know one at the same time. Kenneth Rubin and Andrea Thompson wrote a book called Friendship factor, And it is disturbing that non-society children may have problems in their future life. Based on their research, this child has one or two friends, that is all about their social bond, and that is all the rewarding and successful life.
So trying to reach the first day of the school, to be earlier in the classroom, and it is quiet and is not overwhelming. Basically, the thumb rule is: Try to present a baby to a new situation in their conditions.
Do you think you should defend our child’s introvertated child? Talk about ways to take skills with their teacher? I’m always worried about being a parent of helicopter.
Definitely reaching the teacher. Just let him know, “I wanted to know something about my son” or “or” My children warmer, so how would you feel something to do with Johnny’s matching? “Or, for an older boy, You may say, “I know it very well, but it’s very nervous to be called cold”. Most of the teachers are approaching as partners. And teachers can mark their opinion to show quieter child. “Sophie “It must be learned to talk in class,” I’ll tell you, that I’ll hear the editions are terrible and have been with them, “it’s a deep Sophie thinker, and we always love to hear what it comes out.”
We’ve been talking about younger children, but what about old children and adolescents? How best do we meet their needs?
One of the most important routes to bloom an older child, more relaxed, is developing mastery in sites that passionate. It may be tennis or chess, anything, but I would bend to practice this masterhood because research shows the research than dominating self-esteem. And these passion sites are an excellent path to friendship in introverted children, as they are often not interested in social inclusion in his favor, but they would like to talk to the fence group. There is a common link in this activity.
Thank you for what you think is important here? My extravantered brain isn’t thinking?
This looks like a drain, but it’s not really. A child needs to understand that parents love and honors who they are. For years I have achieved thousands of letters from his parents, but also the children who feel that they do not feel that they were unwanted, informed that something was wrong. This creates embarrassment, then the child leads to them. So parents need to do internal work, because in the fact that Introverte actually get parents, which make a very long way.
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